First Hearing (FHDRA) — What Happens and How to Prepare

What is this?

A First Hearing Dispute Resolution Appointment (FHDRA) is the first court meeting where a judge helps you and the other party try to reach an agreement about child arrangements without needing a full trial.

What happens in practice?

1. Arrival and check‑in – You’ll go to the family court building, sign in at the reception, and wait in the waiting area until your case is called.

2. Brief introductions – The judge (or a legal adviser) will introduce themselves, explain the purpose of the hearing, and confirm who is present.

3. Each side speaks – You’ll have a chance to say what you want regarding the children (e.g., where they should live, how much time they should spend with each parent). The other parent or their representative will do the same.

4. Judge’s questions – The judge may ask clarifying questions to understand the issues, any safety concerns, and what each party hopes to achieve.

5. Discussion of options – The judge will suggest possible ways to settle the dispute, such as a temporary arrangement, mediation, or a parenting plan.

6. Possible outcomes –

- You may reach an agreement that the judge can turn into a court order right then.

- If no agreement is reached, the judge will set directions for the next steps (e.g., ordering a CAFCASS report, scheduling a further hearing, or referring you to mediation).

7. Closing – The judge will summarise what was decided or what needs to happen next, and you’ll be told when to return or what documents to prepare.

What do I need to do?

• Prepare a short statement – Write down, in plain language, what you want for the children and why you think it’s best for them. Keep it brief (a few bullet points).
• Gather any relevant documents – Examples: school reports, medical notes, previous agreements, or evidence of any welfare concerns. Bring copies for yourself and the judge.
• Think about your ideal outcome and a fallback – Knowing what you can accept helps you stay focused during the discussion.
• Consider mediation – Be ready to say whether you’re willing to try mediation if the judge suggests it.
• Dress comfortably but neatly – No formal attire is required, but showing respect for the court helps.
• Arrive early – Aim to be there at least 15‑20 minutes before your scheduled time to allow for check‑in and to calm any nerves.
• Stay calm and listen – Even if you feel upset, try to listen to the other side and the judge’s questions; it shows you’re focused on the children’s welfare.
• Take notes – Write down what the judge says or any orders/directions given, so you remember what to do next.
• Bring a support person if allowed – A friend, family member, or support worker can wait with you (they usually cannot speak in the hearing unless the judge permits it).
• Know your rights – You can ask for a break if you feel overwhelmed, and you can request that the judge explain anything you don’t understand.

Where can I find more help?

• GOV.UK – Child arrangements: applying for a court order – https://www.gov.uk/apply-for-child-arrangements-order
• Citizens Advice – Family law and court – https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/
• Rights of Women – Family law guide – https://rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-information/family-law/
• Gingerbread – Advice for single parents – https://www.gingerbread.org.uk/advice/
• Family Mediation Council – Find a mediator – https://www.familymediationcouncil.org.uk/
• Local law clinics or university legal advice centres – Often free; check with your nearest citizens advice bureau or law school.

Remember: this is general guidance only. For advice specific to your situation, speak to a solicitor, legal aid provider, or your local Citizens Advice.